Joshua Harris, Boy Meets Girl
More than Just Talking
Communication. It’s not such a simple thing, is it? Besides the complications created by our sinful tendencies and the differences between men and women, we have to deal with wrong phone numbers!
Even the best relationships have their “cheese pizza” moments. These are the times when instead of talking to each other, we talk past each other; times when we’re so easily offended that we spend our time arguing over the offense instead of the real issue; moments when we’re so focused on ourselves that we forget that hearing isn’t the same as listening.
A lot of people assume that since they know how to talk, they must know how to communicate. If only it were that easy…
Why weren’t we? Because communication is more than just speaking; it’s listening. And it’s more than just listening; it’s understanding and properly responding to what we’ve heard. Clear communication occurs when two people know not only what to say, but when and how to say it.
Many couples assume that since they talk a lot and have romantic feelings for each other, they’re communicating well. That isn’t necessarily true. It’s possible to exchange thousands of words with people and never learn what they believe or value or feel. It’s possible to fall in love with what you imagine someone is like, yet never see him or her for who they really are.
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